Step 2) Getting Going
Write down some exciting goals. Let yourself dream first, then consider the practicalities. Make sure the goals are compatible with what you consider important in
other aspects of your life. For each goal, imagine what you will see, feel and hear when you have got what you want.
Make a compelling picture in your mind of you getting it. Specify a realistic timescale for your goal. Be very specific on what you want – your unconscious mind is very literal and follows the path of least resistance. If you write “more money” then you have achieved that if you find one penny in the street. And that’s not what you wanted, is it?
The way to turn
a dream into a serious goal is strategy. How will you achieve your goal? Can you find a role model who has done it before? What manageable steps will you have to take? What alternative steps can you take at each stage if things don’t go to plan that will still get you to your goal?
Once you have a strategy, focus consistently on the end goal. There may be setbacks on the way, but you will eventually get where you focus if you are flexible and adapt your approach for changing
circumstances. Be warned, if you focus on failure, that’s exactly what you’ll get.
Step 3) Getting Along with Others
Very few things in life can be done entirely by ourselves. We need to be able to inspire and get along with others. We need to appreciate that other people have different views of life and use that knowledge.
For example, some people are motivated by what they want to avoid, others by what they want; some people internally represent their world
in visual images, others predominantly experience their world in feelings. By being flexible in our communication we can work more effectively with others.
It is also helpful to realise that it does not help us to blame others for our reaction to them. This is a tough insight to grasp but which option do you prefer – that you cannot help your feelings (and therefore are a victim), or that you can affect how you feel and respond (and therefore have power in life)?
NLP contains
many ways of quickly changing our feelings in any situation. Sometimes it helps to imagine seeing the world through someone else’s eyes – to experience the power of shifting perspective.
Step 4) Getting Energy.
You can make a massive impact on your energy, and therefore your power to get what you want in life, by improving your diet and exercise. Tai Chi, Chi Kung, Yoga, and meditation are all good ways of keeping your energy in balance.
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We can also gain a lot of energy by
dealing with those things we have been avoiding – nothing drains energy like a necessary task we keep on putting off.
Step 5) Getting into Contribution
Success is more enjoyable and compelling when we share it. Giving to others also creates a sense of abundance which in turn attracts more abundance. If you can’t give away money, give away possessions you no longer need, your time or your prayers.
Step 6) Getting Open
If you do the same thing when
circumstances have changed, you are really doing something different (and it may not be appropriate for the new situation).
Life demands flexibility. Our business strategies, our relationship strategies, our spiritual strategies need to evolve. There are three great empowering questions we can ask ourselves: “How can I learn from what is happening?”, “How can I improve what I am doing?”, “How can I use this for good?”
Step 7) Getting On and Enjoying It!
There is no
point to success unless we enjoy it. For example, because of limiting beliefs, many people think that they have to work excessive hours to succeed, and end up too tired to enjoy life. We do have to invest time and energy to achieve our desires, but at every stage there needs to be pleasure in what we do. When you have achieved your current goals then create some new, even more inspiring ones.
This is merely an outline. There is far more from NLP and other approaches which you can use
to make life more fun and have more choices and freedom. Everyone has to start somewhere, so why not start now?
Tony Cash is a certified Master Practitioner of NLP. |  | | | © Integration 2000 | | |
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